Getting To Know More About Al-Anon
Al-Anon is support groups all over the world that where people affected by alcoholism in one way or another meet to share experiences and help each other. The aim of these groups is to be recuperative and curative.
Al-Anon was founded in 1951 as an organization for providing support to friends and relatives of drunkards. 16 years after Bill W founded Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Al-Anon was founded by Lois W. his wife and Anne B. Dealing with the difficulties of providing support to a recovering alcoholic during her life, she decided to create an organization for people similar to her. Al-Anon is an organization which supports itself through donations provided by members. The meetings aim to help members cope with and know how to support and help their loved ones fighting alcoholism.
Providing support to family members by making them understand that they are not alone in this struggle is the primary focus of Al-Anon.
The Effects On A Family Due To Alcoholism
Al-Anon considers the problem of alcoholism as a family illness because of the negative impact it has both on the alcoholic and the people surrounding them. Important to the alcoholic's recovery is the friend and family support system.
Many family members are known to blame themselves for the drinking problem of their loved one, and in many cases do not understand why the recovery of their loved one is a priority. Meetings deal with these issues and make members understand that alcoholism is a family illness.
Alateen- Al-Anon Groups For Teens
A particular group called Alateen assists young people impacted by alcoholism in their family is also run by Al-Anon.
During the Al-teen meetings, the youth meet with their peers and share experiences and support each other at their level.
The Advantages Of Al-Anon Group
Members of Al-Anon benefit from being introduced to a number of people and families who could have suffered from the problem of alcoholism. The best part about this program is that you can all relate with the same issue. The main advantage of Al-Anon is searching people who have had similar experiences to talk to. These meetings are widespread all over the country. Call us on 0800 246 1509 to help you find one near you.
Expectations For A Meeting
The meetings held by Al-Anon are open to any individual who could be affected by the alcoholism of another individual. If you are worried about somebody's heavy drinking or if the drunkard's lifestyle somehow affects your life , Al-Anon will help you.
Since they are sure what will happen, some people don't feel free to go to the first meeting. Here are some things to remember when considering whether to attend a meeting:
- Al-Anon is anonymous meaning you do not identify yourself in the meeting
- Everybody present in each meeting has faced the problem of alcoholism, either personally or has a family member suffering from it
- No One is made to speak about their problem or discuss it, just encouraged to
- There Are Several Kinds Of Meetings
- There are meetings where you may not be helped but someone else might be.
- This group is not affiliated to any religion
- Al-Anon meetings follow the 12 Step program
Going to the meeting means that you accept the fact that there are matters discussed that will be of help to you or not. The members get to go about their own personal experiences.
Al-Anon And The 12 Stages
As a rule, group meetings begin with reading of Al Anon 12 Step program. The 12 steps were adapted from the AA 12 Step program. There is a person to hold your hand as you go through the different stages of help. The 12 Steps are as follows:
- We admit that we were powerless over alcohol that our lives had become unmanageable.
- The members learn how to accept alcohol addiction as an illness, which they cannot control if somebody else suffers from it.
- Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
- Pretty often members try to change or control their significant others and drive themselves to the verge.
- They understand to accept that they can revert to sanity, after acknowledging they are powerless.
- Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him.
- A key step to the program and acceptance of learning to let go.
- Carry out a thorough and undaunted moral inventory of ourselves.
- A huge part of the steps are self-discovery, and this is the beginning of the procedure.
- A list of how they may have offended themselves or their loved ones (such as with threats) is made by attendees.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves, and to others human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
- Permitting them to dig into each issue, this is an examination of every thing in the members moral inventory.
- We are entirely prepared to have god remove all these defects of character.
- This step allows the member to off-load his recovery to someone greater and bigger than themselves to handle.
- Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.
- Members are assisted by this part of the 12 Steps to understand how they may have been dominating or judgmental toward an addict and how that is counterproductive.
- Drew up a list of all people we had harmed, and became willing to right a wrong for them all.
- The road to recovery is a personal effort.
- Most people believe they caused their loved one to start drinking.
- They must be willing and prepared to forgive themselves and to make amends.
- Made amends to such people directly where feasible, except for the cases when doing so is likely to hurt them or others.
- After you are willing to make amends, the following step is to act on it.
- Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
- Going through the 12 steps is a process which will take time.
- Members are ready with an inventory, yet making an error is common.
- Step Ten acknowledges that this is a permanent process.
- Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us and the power to carry that out.
- This step is a personal, spiritual one; it comprises acceptance and comfort in view of the great stress of recovery.
- Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to others, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
- The last step is a realization that the members journey has not finished.
- After this, group members are encouraged to support others by sharing what they have already learned.
A Greater Understanding Of The Higher Power
Despite Al-Anon not being a religious program of any kind, the members within do have an acceptance of a greater power. Every member has their own religion affiliation. Al-Anon does not interfere with a member's religious convictions.